To Offer Our Relationship A Definition

A Definition

To Offer Our Relationship a Definition

I. Our Relationship Defined

What is this relationship we defined

to quietly agree to cohabit,

to live in the world on our own grit,

the dotted line has finally been signed.


So you sleep in the other room now

and we both pass when taking care of kids

as if each and every smile we have rids

us of our deep pain, as if we know how.


After ten years I still have no idea,

to express how much love I have for you,

to tell you I love your mind and body,

all of you, the you in the space I see.


I pray everyday to recreate new,

I find myself falling inside of me.

II. Our Relationship Has Been

The poems you wrote about the sunset times,

the recognition of a true sunrise,

once deep inside of me with weary sighs

and lost Elizabethan sonnet rhymes.


So many words written in my lifetime

as though each syllable would fall to dust,

each stanza left outside to conquer rust,

no immortality hidden in line.


All truths are spoken towards you and me,

these years we loved will never find a home

where walls are filled with photos and art

of every child who makes our family.


To fill each paragraph within our tome,

too many words to spell a new fresh start.

III. Our Relationships Become

I cannot seem to see through all this

odd rhetoric of sullen divorce

held still by a new universal force

all I can do is stare at this mess.


The crisp mountain air will not settle me,

to hide in a book under each letter,

to sleep, curl in deep dark, to make better

a bitter infusion, emotions tea.


Within a second pulled out from myself,

a slight recognition from the real,

a sigh from the downward glance of my son


and I knew our time was our current wealth,

in front of your love I was forced to kneel

a kiss on your forehead sent to the sun.

IV. I Keep Making the Excuses

So I keep making all the excuses

as I point to the mildew and the mold

corroded picture of a story told

these memories and their lasting uses.


A reflection of a happy couple

on the water causing slow erosion,

to peel the frame back, this situation,

to slowly back away from this trouble.


With a moistened, tattered, floral towel,

I try to wipe away and prevent this waste

and though I tried the damage was too deep.


Fingers fell through this wood with a scowl

and nothing could remove this bitter taste

we could not stop dirty water to seep.


An Explanation

During my divorce I wrote many sonnets that I shared separately with a desire to combine in the future.  Many years have past since these poems were shared as single sonnets written within weeks of each other.

Today tried my patience because it is hard living in two separate worlds held together by our children.  So this collection of poems ordered for effect serves as a deep breath to ease my anxiety.

New meanings were found through the combination and “To Offer Our Relationship a Definition” tells a deeper story.

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Jamie Lee Hamann

Things have changed over the years. My name is Jamie Lee Hamann and I have a passion for writing short fiction and poetry. I started writing for TCE around 2015 and since then I have finished two collections of poetry "Six Years of Service" and "The Rhyme of the Ancient Middle Class" both available on Amazon and plans for more. I share a weekly poem for TCE every Saturday. I started work on my first novel and I am using TCE to share my progress as I go. I share new excerpts of this work every weekend. A Science Fiction novel that I hope is enjoyable to read. I currently live in Lemmon Valley NV with my family. I am excited to share my poetry and my writing. If you desire to find my other work on the internet feel free to stop by my website The website offers articles on poetry, poems, and links to all my other writing.

3 thoughts on “To Offer Our Relationship A Definition

  • January 28, 2020 at 11:42 PM

    Your inner feelings come out strong in this piece, Jamie. It is very well penned and emotive. It is clearly a difficult lifestyle, kind of like walking on eggshells. I learned from many sources, including personal experience, that staying together for the sake of the children is rarely an emotionally healthy situation for all members involved. I understand there may be valid reasons why the parents remain in the same household after the divorce, but I wonder how confusing this must be for the children. Even if the children are able to deal with it, what is it doing to the emotional well-being of the parents?

    I am a spiritual mentor if you ever feel you need help. Take care, dear friend.

  • January 30, 2020 at 4:26 PM

    The emotions just shine through. It is a hard concept to be so in love with someone that the sun rises and sets on them and then see that relationship unravel like a ball of twine and become a completely different concept and what happened to the love?


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