Not What We Do But How We Do It

Not What We Do But How We Do It
Not What We Do But How We Do It

‘Not what we do but how we do it,’
applies to most everything in life,
and the more we acknowledge this truth,
the more we realize that its paradigm
is a powerful change in thinking.

Argument, discussion, reacting, responding,
lust and love and endless more,
show how we choose negative paths,
when a positive outcome beckons our attention,
just by the manner of our action.

Human beings are burdened by ego,
a necessity but often a sadly unleashed demon
that if not contained, can cause infinite troubles in life,
by its demands of compliance
and pushing to get what it wants.

This pushing is the epitome of forced actions,
seen as hostile, aggressive and negative,
when all along a less aggressive approach
could well have won the day
and wants attained without drama.

If a calm and open discussion cannot solve a problem,
walk away, because aggressive reactions
just escalate and solve nothing, for
what has war every brought but pain and despair
and the culling of humanity,
eventually followed by yet another war.

We find it hard to learn from our mistakes,
for it is always the intention of our actions
that have the lasting effect, and
in a calm and sentient manner,
problems can be dealt with positively,
without casualty.

If humanity followed this simple paradigm,
the world would be a different place,
each moment choosing an appropriate response
to all challenges and obstacles,
and in the solving of them, the knowledge that
how we do anything, really matters.

Tony DeLorger © 2018

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Tony DeLorger

Full time author, freelance writer, poet and blogger since 1999. Twenty one published works, past winner of 'Poet of the Year' on HubPages, 'Poem of the Year' on The Creative Exiles, writer for, Google+, videos on YouTube and book sales on website, Amazon and

2 thoughts on “Not What We Do But How We Do It

  • April 22, 2018 at 5:44 PM

    I so agree with all this, Tony. I have often been asked, “Why do you walk away from arguments?” My answer is: “When we can discuss it in calmness and really listening, without accusations and criticism, then I will stay.” Sometimes I have fought back with anger as anger is directed at me, but it gets one nowhere and solves nothing. Great work Tony.


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