Contention Never Wins


Contention Never Wins
Contention Never Wins

It is within me to oblige,
surrender to a higher mind,
for contention has taught me
the ache of pointlessness,
the loss of time and balance
in perverse responses,
driven by petty ego and the will
of competition.

I still shun games,
for what I have seen in others,
their need to better someone else,
to feel empowered by someone else’s loss
simply shows a driven ego,
a life needing approval,
proving a greater self,
yet in truth it shows a lesser self.

The only betterment we should seek
is to better ourselves,
to better who we are in process,
in finding worthy paradigms to follow,
to extend our knowledge, understanding
and ability to be compassionate and love,
all that is worthy of life,
the conquering of others a negative aspiration.

How we see life and indeed how we act
is the manifestation of our deepest expressions,
those that abide our truth,
and choosing to contend with others
shows a weakness, an insecure mind
in believing we need to prove ourselves,
need to feel in control,
ironically by controlling others.

Betterment is personal,
we challenging ourselves to aspire
to higher thoughts and actions,
being the best we can be as an individual,
and even in sport we do not conquer our opponent,
we conquer ourselves, and win or lose,
our best delivers us to
a worthy definition of winning.

Tony DeLorger © 2018

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Tony DeLorger

Full time author, freelance writer, poet and blogger since 1999. Twenty one published works, past winner of 'Poet of the Year' on HubPages, 'Poem of the Year' on The Creative Exiles, writer for, Google+, videos on YouTube and book sales on website, Amazon and

2 thoughts on “Contention Never Wins

  • February 12, 2018 at 8:53 PM

    Thank you so much for sharing these wonderful words dear Tony..quite relevant in today’s competitive world where everyone is dying to win the first place in everything they do….comparisons are always futile and would give us only pain..each of us are unique and we all will have our own place in this world one can rob us of that..and if we strive to give the best we can, then I think we should be happy..thank you so much for sharing your inspirational and thought provoking words..really enjoyed reading..

  • February 12, 2018 at 10:37 PM

    Glad you did Anjana, so may people chase the wrong goals and are ultimately unhappy, because they believe that being better than someone else is meaningful, and in the end it is not. Fulfillment comes from doing our very best regardless of outcome. Take care.


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