I Want to Be .. Me!

I Want to Be .. Me

I Want to Be ..

I Want to Be .. Me

I want to be a princess

With tiara and lace dress,

Or the driver of a big rig,

18 wheels and nothing less.

Maybe, a tiny fairy

With magic wand and wings,

Like Tinkerbell from Peter Pan,

And do all wondrous things.

I want to be a firefighter

Saving people from the flames,

Or possibly an athlete

At the Olympic Games.

What about a hairdresser,

Or perhaps even a nurse?

Put my money in a wallet,

Or better yet, a purse.

So what if I like purple,

Or maybe even pink?

Just because I am a boy,

I don’t care what you think!

Or maybe I’m a little girl

Who likes to play with cars.

You other girls can keep your dolls,

You’re from Venus, I’m from Mars.

Which present should I choose,

A Barbie Doll or Spiderman?

Can I please have one of each,

I can’t decide quite who I am.

Why does society stereotype,

And put us in a box?

Why can’t we all just live a life

That’s free of chains and locks?

I want to be .. Me

My Inspiration for This Poem

Recently my three year old grandson was asked what he wanted to be when he grew up. His reply shocked his parents. He said, “I want to be a princess, or Spiderman, or a hairdresser, or a nurse.” His favourite colour also happens to be pink. If he is given a choice of three of four things that are the same, except their colour .. he will always choose the pink one.

We tried to tell his parents (my son and his wife) not to worry about it. Just indulge him and he may eventually grow out of it. Even if he doesn’t, does it matter? If you suppress him now, he will just rebel and do what he wants later. He has two older brothers and one younger brother, no sisters. My son has trouble accepting this, so it will be interesting to see what the future brings.

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John Hansen

Longtime poet but not in the traditional technical sense. I enjoy rhyme but like to experiment and dabble in many different forms and maybe even make up some of my own. There is always a message or lesson I want to promote through my writing, for that reason, my poetry generally shies away from the abstract and obscure. After a lot of procrastinating I have finally self-published my first eBooks of poetry "I Laughed a Smile" and "On the Wings of Eagles" at Lulu.com. Now I find myself branching out and experimenting with short fiction. I have also been fortunate to have two poems chosen to be made into songs and recorded. The first "On the Road to Kingdom Come" by Al Wordlaw, and the second, "If I Could Write a Love Poem" by award-winning Israeli/British singer Tally Koren. I am also finding my services increasingly in demand as a freelance writer and I have ghost-written the text for a number of children's books and educational tutorials. It has taken me many years of searching and restlessness to realise that my life's passion is to write. It saddens me that I wasted so many years not devoting to that, but thinking positively, the experiences gained over those years is now wonderful material for my stories and poems. I want to try to bring a new focus on poetry and try to make it appealing to a new generation of young people and those who thought they never liked or understood it before.

10 thoughts on “I Want to Be .. Me!

  • November 4, 2016 at 1:15 AM
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    I love this poem John. It is how I allowed my own kids to be, themselves. I never liked stereotyping kids. It can inhibit them and keep them in a narrow path or small box. Give children the right to use their own mind and be who they are. You have such a wonderful way of sending out positive messages and a remarkable way with children. Kudos! Great work. Your grandchildren are very fortunate to have you in their life.

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  • November 4, 2016 at 1:39 AM
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    Thank you, Phyllis. It sounds like you brought your own kids up very well. I appreciate your kind words, and glad you liked this poem.

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  • November 4, 2016 at 10:09 AM
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    John, this is such a great poem, should be an inspiration to all parents. Kids are who they are, and most of them will try to experience many things before they figure out what they want. They should have the chance to do it without feeling that some of their choices are “wrong”. Great message.

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    • November 4, 2016 at 2:58 PM
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      Emese, your comment echoes and confirms how I feel about this subject. When I was raising my own children, my oldest son liked pink and actually wore a hot pink dress and high heels to a school fancy dress once. He isn’t gay and has four children of his own. The child who inspired the poem is my second son’s boy. Glad you liked this poem.

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  • November 4, 2016 at 2:09 PM
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    This is great John, and really hits home for me, personally. Thank goodness there is a greater awareness of stereotypes nowadays. I have tried very hard not to instill bias in my four year old, give him choice of his own mind. He loves pink and wonder woman ha! Its interesting though now already fresh into preschool he has learned if he wants a play kitchen it should not be minnie mouse, but mickey, because ‘Minnie is for girls’ They pick it up a long the way, its nearly unavoidable. This is a wonderful topic, its important to foster the individual. Thank you for this.

    Best,
    Mel

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  • November 4, 2016 at 3:04 PM
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    Thank you for reading this Mel, and for your great comment. It is good that you find this relevant in your own situation as a mother. Yes, we just need to nurture our children to be individuals and make their own decisions not based on stereotypes. As you say it is inevitable that they will pick up what is considered acceptable along the way, then it’s up to them to conform or not. As long as they learn right from wrong and respect of others, everything else is superfluous.

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  • November 4, 2016 at 5:40 PM
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    Nicely stated John, why do we stereotype people, even children before they have found their way in life. We should all be judging what’s in the heart and nothing else, for in the end that’s what matters. A great poem and statement of what’s important. Great work John.

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  • November 4, 2016 at 7:05 PM
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    Thank you, Tony. Society’s standards are changing and we seem to be accepting more things under the banner “normal” but it will be a long time before all stereotype barriers are broken down. I appreciate your generous comment.

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  • November 9, 2016 at 4:56 AM
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    What a lovely poem John..I cannot agree with you more..I think the society stereotypes too much..my daughter now says her favorite colour is blue..but in her world nothing is constant..favorites keep on changing..lol….I really enjoyed reading this..thank you so much for sharing..

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  • November 9, 2016 at 6:36 AM
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    Thank you for reading and commenting on this poem, Anjana. I am glad you agree with my views here and can relate through your own daughter. Parents shouldn’t panic, just indulge their children’s likes, because chances are they will keep changing,

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